I would love to look at the last week in review. It has been one hell of a wild ride with the highs and lows. From the highs of Rebecca making me feel like a million bucks. To the both of us in shock of the wonderful response of you my readers and the amount of readers who took the time to look. The Facebook response also shocked both of us. Life is funny when you are riding high and the tall poppy syndrome rears it head and is cut back down. That same day a teacher had to have a talk with me about my little girl. Once again my heart broke over the past. Then following that downward spiral an email from my attorney hit. Not that it caused worry or concern. It was the sadness of what I was reading knowing that what once was is almost all gone. Then that night as more and more kind words were said by so many wonderful people and friends the pain of reality faded into the hugs of my children. A wonderful opportunity came as I was asked if I would like to be interviewed for Humans of Launceston, of course i said yes (it was very fun). Then once more the children’s School St. Finn Barrs stepped up to the plate, knocked the dirt off their shoes, placed the bat on their shoulder, as the ball of life came in their took a swing and hit a home run. The principle made a few calls to get some help for our little girl asap! I do mean asap! A professional is coming in to listen to her. Then another thing that happened is when I did my bread run on Friday night after dropping off the children for a visit with the other parent. I was making a call to a friend who was doing a bit to help. Backed out with a bit of a judgement that made me feel a bit sad. But as I dropped off my bread to others who could help I went to see another friend we had a wonderful chat he and his wife are professionals in medical services. We looked over the letter and a sense of calm resided in my soul. Saturday rolled in with more excitement a wonderful text message and I told the person to knock it off cause it is getting a bit old. That it is time to start being a parent or get out of the game. Then I had the friend from the Friday night start complaining once more and I tried to help and learned that I needed to add a rule to my list of rules about people. *Never give advice to people who need and ask for it unless they are ready for it.
Sometimes people want the help but are not able to see past their problem to understand the advice and suggestions that are given. They become defensive and sink their heels in and are sure that the pattern they are doing is the only way to get something done. I learned from my dad years ago when I was little “Don’t fix it if it is not broken, but only a fool keeps doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. So when you notice it is broken fix it” Then when your day starts off with that much excitement you hope for something better. So I left the friend with her issues and walked away for my own self care. A few hours later I was able to enjoy a wonderful night with my friends being a geek or nerd whatever you want to call people who play Dungeon & Dragons. Yup I said it I play a geeky game. But these friends are the best mates I have ever known. Then their wives are also very kind people. I have a large amount of respect for these wonderful friends.
Then Sunday came and I had a wonderful drive to pick up the children. We drove to me second to last bread drop off. I am so very happy everything has fallen into place as the day came to an end as the children were on their call with the other parent Gabriel was playing a name game and said Allen, then the other parent said can I say Neurotic. I let it go cause I am not going to get into such a name calling issue or say something that might upset the children. Mind you calling me a name as your child can hear you is not a good thing to do.
So the to end the night I put a post up on my Facebook about Pronouns “Dear Friends,
There has arisen in the last few days something I would like you to think about. I say this with a gentle heart and love for each of you. I know that many of you have tried real hard on this journey of my Transition and I would first like to say thank you. I know that it has been a bit hard to deal with the pronouns. I want you right now to take a deep breath hold it for 4 seconds and release. I am and always have been your friend. With being a friend comes love and understanding. I am not nor will I be offended by this, cause we are on a journey that has taken both on a deeper understanding of friendship. I am sincerely thankful for each and everyone of you in my life.
Love Ally”
I felt it needed to be said cause I did not want friends feeling like I would get upset over something so simple. I want to also address something that I heard from another friend Michelle Sheppard who was talking about “Dead Name” I do not support this term. I love what Allen did for me he kept the real me safe.